Why do people lie?
To make them appear different than they really are.
To escape consequences from their action or lack thereof.
Lets examine a divorced woman in my sphere of acquaintance. This particular woman has a 6 year old child living in her home. She receives enough money from the father in child support and other compensation to 100% pay for the mortgage, utility bills, medical insurance for the child, day care, and 2 extra curricular activities per year for the child. On top of that, the woman received extensive formal education and professional training while she was in this marriage including several college degrees. This education allows her to command a very comfortable salary as a physical therapist in a state which has the highest average salary in that field according to the United States Labor board. The salary she recieves is enough to allow her to do things within the last 6 months such as fly herself and two of the children across the country for Spring Break, pay an extra $2000 on her mortgage, and to have a new pool installed.
Why then, would this woman ( I hesitate to call her 'mother' as her actions are other than motherly) call her older children on the phone (the ones not living at home) and inform them that Dad has left her with nothing and doesn't give her enough money to even be able to pay for _______ (milk, heat, clothes, internet, ... insert your favorite in the blank). She also informs them that because of her destitute position, she will have to move out of state and she will lose her house.
This woman tells her religious leaders that she is having trouble making ends meet. She convinces her babysitter that she doesn't have any money to pay her, causing the babysitter to say to the father when he picks the child up for visitation "She pays me when she can. She doesn't have very much money."
Lies, lies and more lies.
I don't know exactly why she lies. But lets make some guesses:
She doesn't want anyone to believe that the father has any good in him.
She thinks she can hide the fact that she is as much to blame for her marriage dying as he is.
She is trying to create excuses for her other vile actions (such as alienating the children from their father).
She is completely psychotic and has lost touch with reality. (my favorite)
This woman's actions are selfish and deceitful. She is consumed with her own anger and self-importance. She refuses to step back and see the harm that she does her children every day. Her lies will come back to haunt her some day. Lies always do.
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